Please recognize and accept that there are no "pat" answers or "right" answers for you to memorize. It is more a question of preparing you so you can be more relaxed.
Be totally honest with the evaluator conducting the Home Study. I can not begin to tell you the number of times people have gotten into difficulty because they did not answer the questions truthfully; e.g., they did not list all arrests they have had
including those they thought were expunged from their records, including a DWI (Driving While Intoxicated), trespass misdemeanor, or the Possession of Marijuana even ten or twenty years ago.
Questions:
How do you feel about a social worker, psychologist or counselor coming into your home and evaluating your "competence" and ability to be a good parent?
Have you any anger or frustration at not being able to have children of your own? How have you dealt with this?
Do you and your spouse share the same views on adoption? (You may be asked this question separately. Be sure you discuss this beforehand.)
What are the reasons for adopting a child?
Why are you unable to have children of your own? What have you tried before seeking to adopt?
What is your lifestyle? How will a child fit into it? Or change it?
How do you feel about fathering and mothering a child that was not born to you?
What kind of child do you want to adopt? Why are you interested in one type as opposed to other types of children available?
What are some of the goals you see for your adopted child? How do you plan to help the child reach these goals?
If you already have a child or children, what have you told them? How do they view the adoption?
If you have no other children, what do you know about raising a child?
Will both parents be working? Who will care for the child during the day?
What does the rest of your family (your parents, sisters, brothers) think about the idea of adoption?
How did your parents raise you? How did they discipline you when you did things they didn't like?
Is this your first marriage? How did you meet your spouse? What attracted you to each other?
Do you have many friends? How long have you known these people? What do you look for in a friend?
What are your religious practices? What role does religion play in your life? What role do you expect it to play in the life of your adopted child?
What is your financial situation? Do you have life insurance? How much? Do you have medical coverage? What kind?
Will your medical insurance cover any of the medical costs of the adoptive child?
Are you willing to provide pictures and updates on the child's development to the birth mother and/or birth father? Will you permit the child to receive gifts and cards from the birth parents?
If you are adopting trans-racially, what special problems do you think a child might face in your family, school system, or community? What special community resources are available to you and your child?
Remember, there are no right or wrong answers to any of these questions. Try to relax, be as natural as possible and always give the "whole truth and nothing but the truth". |