Adoption: You Have All The Choices
As the biological parent, you have the right and responsibility to make decisions about what happens to your baby. You can decide to raise the child yourself, have friends or family help you or raise the child for you or you can decide to place your child for adoption with the perfect loving family. In an adoption you should, and can, proceed in a way that you feel most comfortable. You have all the choices and you can decide how the choices are made.
Your Have All the Choices: Introduction
First you can choose whether to raise your child yourself, to place your child with a relative or friend, put the child in foster care through the state child welfare agency, or whether to place your child for adoption.
If you decide that adoption is the best route to go for both you and the baby, you then need to decide whether you want to receive the professional assistance of an agency adoption, or take the more risky route of a private adoption through a family you found on-line, through a newspaper or magazine ad, an attorney or through an adoption facilitator.
If you follow our advice, you should decide to work only with a fully licensed not-for=profit adoption agency. Depending on the agency you select, you can choose whether to be involved in each and every step, whether to turn everything over to the adoption agency and let them take care of everything for you, or whether you want to make only those decisions that you are comfortable with and let the agency take care of the rest.
You need to make sure that your child will be in a safe and loving home with the kind of parents you want. In working with a licensed adoption agency you can choose the family yourself and/or give your agency the characteristics about the family that are important to you, such as their age, religion, income level, whether they have children, where they live, etc., and let them prescreen and choose the family.
You have the choice of how much ongoing contact you will have with the adopting family and with the child. You can decide if you want, or do not want, to meet the family, get updates and pictures, and/or see the family and child on an ongoing basis.
Remember, you can make as many or as few of the choices as you want. Just make sure you carefully select an adoption agency that does not put unnecessary limitations on you and the adoption, but truly has your interest at heart and lets you decide how you want the adoption to take place.
Open or Closed Adoption?
No one level of "closedness" or "openness" in a child adoption is best for every birth parent. Closed and open adoptions both can be done in a healthy way so the the birth parents and child do not experience unnecessary emotional difficulties. However, it is important you understand each type of adoption so you can proceed the way that is best for you and your child.
Adoption Agency or Private Adoption?
It is important for you to understand that an agency and private adoption are very different. They both result in your rights as the biological parent being ended and with the child being adopted, but they way they get to this result is very different.
Adoption Agencies or Adoption Facilitators?
Many adoption facilitators are not licensed and are not held accountable for their actions. Accordingly, there have been so many problems and complaints that the U.S. government strongly recommends only dealing with licensed adoption agencies.
Can I Choose the Adopting Family?
You can select the adopting family or you can have your adoption agency select them for you. You may specify age, religion, lifestyle, number of children in the family, location or any other factors which are important to you. However, the decision is yours and you need not be forced into choosing or not choosing the family.
If You Need Help
Adoption Services is a fully licensed non-profit adoption agency that helps birth mothers living in any state in the U.S. The Agency can also help a U.S. citizen living in any foreign country. Adoption Services has helped over 9000 birth parents and families. Feel free to contact us if you have any questions or if you want our guidance or help. We can make sure your child is placed with the perfect family, your rights are protected, and that you receive all the financial assistance and medical help as well as other types of help that the law allows. There is never any fee to you as a birth parent whether you work with our agency or decide to look elsewhere. Please visit the link "Ways we can help you".
We Can Help a Birth Parent Living in Any State
We are licensed in multiple states and are able to help a birth mother, birth father, and adopting family living in any of the 50 U.S. states.
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