In a closed adoption the birth parents and adopting family do not exchange identifying information. While many details may be shared, including first names and a face-to-face meeting, no identifying information such as last name and addresses is exchanged.
In an open adoption the birth parent(s) and adopting parent(s) exchange identifying information and are then able, if they so choose, to be in direct contact with one another. The degree of openness varies widely from occasional letters or phone calls, providing pictures on an ongoing basis, to actual physical meetings and sharing of birthdays and other holidays.
Historically, in western society, a closed adoption was the most traditional type of adoption; however, due to changing attitudes about adoption, open adoptions are now very common and, in some places, they are the norm.
Our fully licensed non-profit adoption agency conducts both open and closed adoptions and helps birth parents and families living in any state in the U.S. and we can also help U.S. citizens living in any foreign country. Since our founding in 1985, we have worked with thousands of birth parents and adopting families from all over the world and our overall satisfaction rating is excellent. We are committed to putting your needs first and to helping you in every way possible. Feel free to contact us or call (toll-free 1(800)943-0400) if you have any questions or if you want our guidance or help. All calls are confidential and there is never any obligation to you for our help.
At one time almost all agency adoptions were closed and if a birth mother wanted an open adoption she would need to contact an attorney and proceed with a private adoption. This began to change about 15-20 years ago and is no longer the case.
Nowadays the birth mother and/or birth father can, and typically do, request some combination of updates, pictures, meetings, a closed adoption, an open adoption, or a semi-open adoption and most adoption agencies and adoption attorneys will fulfill their requests. At the same time, you as the adopting family can decide what you are willing and desirous of doing. Then the adoption agency or adoption attorney will match you and the birth parents based on the comparability of your requests.
Note that in some states open adoptions or closed adoptions are restricted and many agencies have their own way of dealing with open and closed adoption. Accordingly, whether an adoption is open or closed will depend on what you want, what the birth mother and birth father request, what your state allows, and what agency you select.
No one level of openness in a child adoption is best for everyone and each child adoption changes over time. Whether an adoption is open or closed will not cause your child to be emotionally healthy or unhealthy. Make sure to make known to your adoption agency what you are comfortable with, and then stick to what you want.
Several other websites provide research and issues to consider in open child adoption. These include:
American Association of Open Adoption Agencies helps families find agencies practicing open child adoption.
Insight: Open Adoption Resources and Support offers open child adoption resources for professionals and support for adoptive and birth parents considering open child adoption.
Minnesota/Texas Adoption Research Project provides information on a longitudinal study of openness in child adoption since 1985.
Adoption Services has extensive experience with open and closed child adoption as well as variations of these two. We are here to help you determine the best choice for you and then to help implement your choices in a way that will eliminate problems and concerns. We are able to help you with an adoption regardless of the state in which you reside.
For additional help with an adoption agency adoption visit the link Selecting an adoption Agency. You can also find a list of adoption agencies in your state and neighboring states at the link Domestic Adoption Agencies.
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Why would You Want an Adoption Consultant?
There are many risks when you go to adopt a child including losing a child after you have already taken them home (referred to as a disruption), losing all of the money you have invested in the adoption if the birth mother changes her mind, or finding that there are previously unknown or undisclosed fees that may appear. Dr Berger has helped thousands of adopting families with domestic adoptions and international adoptions and he is available to assist you no matter what type of adoption you chose to pursue and regardless of whether you work with an adoption agency, facilitator or adoption attorney. He can help you save your time, effort and money in helping you to decide what routes to take and the best way to achieve your goal of adopting a child. He can help reduce your risks and potential pain and can help you avoid many of the problems and pitfalls found in the adoption process. You can read and download his free adoption manual or, for more information on how he can help you, please visit his Adoption Consultant link.
We are licensed in multiple states and are able to help a birth mother, birth father, and adopting family living in any of the 50 U.S. states and even U.S. citizens (birth parents and families) that are living in other countries.
Dr Vince Berger
and the staff of Adoption Services
Adoption Services, Inc
28 Central Blvd
Camp Hill, PA 17011