Can I Select the Family?

Yes, with just the right agency you can pick the family or have the agency select the adopting family.

With our Agency, the choices are all yours. We help with both open and closed adoptions. We will help you as much or as little as you want.

Over the past 45+ years our not-for-profit adoption agency and I have helped birth parents and families from all 50 states. We have completed over 900 successful placements and we have a five-star rating on Google.  You can always visit our testimonial pages (see the link on the right). Please contact us toll-free at 1(800)943-0400 and visit the link Ways we can help you.

We will make sure the perfect adopting family is found for your child, make sure your rights are protected, and that you get all the financial assistance and medical help the law allows. And with our Agency there is never any cost or obligation to you.

Can You Select the Family?

With the right agency, the simple answer is yes you can choose the family your child is placed with. But there is a little more to it than that.

Many birth parents are surprised to find they don’t want to be deeply involved in choosing the adoptive family. Some prefer not to look through profiles or meet families at all. Instead, they may just have a few things that matter to them—like wanting a family with a certain faith, a stable marriage, a good income, or a safe place to live. Others may want a family that values education and can afford to send a child to college.

Some birth parents simply want to know their child will be loved, cared for, and raised in a healthy, stable home. Others want a more personal connection. They may choose to meet the adoptive family, talk on the phone, or exchange letters and pictures. Some even go to doctor visits together or spend time together at the hospital when the baby is born.

Your choices mostly come down to what you want and what your state allows. That said, some adoption agencies or attorneys may try to limit your options. For example, they may only offer open or closed adoptions, or they may require you to meet—or not meet—the adoptive family.

That’s why it’s important to select an agency that gives you as many options as possible within the law. Aside from legal limits, the decisions are yours. You can be as involved—or as private—as you feel comfortable.

Additional Information and Help

After over 45+ years of working with birth mothers and fathers, we’ve learned that no two people want the exact same experience. Everyone has their own comfort level, hopes, and priorities.

At Adoption Services, we take the time to listen to what matters most to you. We help you think through the kind of family you want for your child and how involved you’d like to be. Then we match you with a family from our carefully screened list of adoptive parents.

You also decide what kind of contact you want. You can meet the family or not, receive updates and photos or not, and choose an open or closed adoption. You can even decide if you’d like contact in the future.

In the end, it’s about what feels right to you.

We Can Help a Birth Mother Living in Any State

We are licensed in multiple states and are able to help a birth mother, birth father, and adopting family living in any of the 50 U.S. states.  Feel free to contact us or call (toll-free 1(800)943-0400) if you have any questions or if you want our guidance or help.  All calls are confidential and there is never any obligation or cost to you for our help.