birth mother choices

Adoption: You Have All The Choices

You can choose whether to raise your child yourself, to place with a relative or to place your child for adoption.

We can make sure your child is placed with the perfect family, your rights are protected, and that you receive all the legal and financial assistance and medical help as well as other types of help that the law allows. Please visit the link "Ways we can help you" and/or look at the video below.

Over the past 40+ years we have helped over 9000 birth parents and adopting families living in any state in the U.S. We are committed to putting your needs first and to helping you in every way possible. Feel free to contact us or call (toll-free 1(800)943-0400). All calls are confidential and there is never any obligation or cost to you for our help. 

More about Your Choices

If you follow our advice, you should decide to work only with a fully licensed not-for-profit adoption agency. Depending on the agency you select, you can choose whether to be involved in each and every step, whether to turn everything over to the adoption agency and let them take care of everything for you, or whether you want to make only those decisions that you are comfortable with and let the agency take care of the rest.

You need to make sure that your child will be in a safe and loving home with the kind of parents you want. In working with a licensed adoption agency you can choose the family yourself and/or give your agency the characteristics about the family that are important to you, such as their age, religion, income level, whether they have children, where they live, etc., and let them prescreen and choose the family.

You have the choice of how much ongoing contact you will have with the adopting family and with the child. You can decide if you want, or do not want, to meet the family, get updates and pictures, and/or see the family and child on an ongoing basis.

Remember, you can make as many or as few of the choices as you want. Just make sure you carefully select an adoption agency that does not put unnecessary limitations on you and the adoption, but truly has your interest at heart and lets you decide how you want the adoption to take place.

Open or Closed Adoption?

No one level of an open or closed adoption is best for every birth parent. Closed and open adoptions both can be done in a healthy way so the birth parents and child do not experience unnecessary emotional difficulties. However, it is important you understand each type of adoption so you can proceed the way that is best for you and your child.

Adoption Agency or Private Adoption?

It is important for you to understand that an agency and private adoption are very different. They both result in your rights as the biological parent being ended and with the child being adopted, but the way they get to this result is very different.

Adoption Agencies or Adoption Facilitators?

Many adoption facilitators are not licensed and are not held accountable for their actions. Accordingly, there have been so many problems and complaints that the U.S. government strongly recommends only dealing with licensed adoption agencies.

Can I Choose the Adopting Family?

You can select the adopting family or you can have your adoption agency select them for you. You may specify age, religion, lifestyle, number of children in the family, location or any other factors which are important to you. However, the decision is yours and you need not be forced into choosing or not choosing the family.

If you need or want some specific personal advice, you can also call the creator of this website, Dr. Vince Berger, a psychologist and adoption professional, by phone or by email.

We Can Help a Birth Parent Living in Any State

Adoption Services is a fully licensed non-profit adoption agency that helps birth mothers living in any state in the U.S. Feel free to contact us if you have any questions or if you want our guidance or help.